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Hi Everyone,
Here is an hour long interview I had with Micheal Pope,  CEO of ASEB (Alz Services of East Bay) this morning on aging and giving care. I read poetry from Ageless Woman and I Am somebody. Micheal is an amazing woman who devotes her life to helping others.
I don’t know how I did…I just about never listen or watch anything I say or do on radio or TV.
Take care,
frances

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifeisasacredjourney/2018/05/24/poetry-for-the-ageless-with-frances-kakugawa

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   This thing called life,  passion, feelings or  sexuality belongs to us, men and women of all ages.

We still see things we shouldn’t see –

We still feel things we shouldn’t feel-

We still hear things we shouldn’t hear-

We still taste grief, joy, fear,

In a world that vibrates

Through all of my senses.

We are not dead yet.

   Definition

Do not define me by age.

I am not Roosevelt, Truman,

Eisenhower, or JFK.

 

Do not define me by blue veins

bulging out on my spidery arms,

my gobbler, once a Hepburn, Audrey.

 

Do not define me by Rorschach,

On skin brushed with indelible ink.

A Pollock on the wall of MOMA.

 

Do not define me by a new dance step

Shuffling, shuffling –

My heels replaced by clogs.

 

I am

a rabbit out of a hat,

a three ring circus without net,

A whodunit without clues.

War and Peace, chapter one,

The second act.

 

I am

Without epilog.

from my Dangerous Women: Poetry for the Ageless

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My blog site is included on this site for people who are caring for loved ones with various illnesses . Please go to this site for the entire sets of blogs from various caregivers.

https://www.mytherapyapp.com/blog/best-caregiver-blogs-2018

My own is listed below.

20 Valuable Blogs for Caregivers in 2018

Caregiving for a Loved One, Young or Old, Is an Incredibly Difficult Job. These Bloggers Share Their Wisdom, Helping Any Caregiver on Their Journey

Frances Kakugawa

Frances Kakugawa is a distinguished author and poet, whose experience in caring for her late mother, Matsue – who lived with Alzheimer’s – influences much of her work. 16 years after her mother passed away, Frances remains an active voice in caregiving, and has published four books on the subject – including one for children. She writes a Dear Frances advice column for caregivers in the Hawaii Herald, and her long-standing blog has a vast amount of posts about caregiving, ranging from practical advice to profound poetry.

franceskakugawa.wordpress.com

 

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Hi Everyone,

I’ll be speaking at the National Council of Negro Women Alzheimer’s workshop on Nov 18th.

I’ll be addressing how I used poetry, language and story telling to help me turn the care of my mother into a legacy of dignity and compassion, and to know what it means to be human.

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Thank you, participants and Brookdale Foundation and RAPP for all the welcoming mats. It was an honor to  help open the conference with a keynote address  followed by book signings and two workshops on the following day. It was a nice way to introduce my new book: Dangerous Women: Poetry for the Ageless. Participants are to be highly commended for making a difference in the lives of our elders, our children and in the humanities.

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I think humor helped when I kept saying, “Hey, I’m not in the Obit, I’m still alive.” I’m in the third week of pneumonia, lungs are still not completely healed.  I was so sure I was going to die from complications but such drama, thankfully, didn’t happen.

I need to heal because I’m giving the keynote address to open a national conference in Denver next month, followed by two workshops on the following day: a workshop for caregivers and one for relatives who are raising children without their parents.

Had an excellent caregiver, nurse in Red. I did tell him one night,” Can you fire the chef who did tonight’s soup, it’s too salty.” He said, “I already fired him.” One night I told him I wanted Kapoho style healing food: Vienna sausage, hot rice and eggs. He looked stunned and said, “Nobody eats that stuff.” I got up and added shoyu (soy sauce) and sugar to a whole can of Vienna sausage, and was it good with rice and eggs! And healing began.

Spam is next on the menu.

The sound of the washer in the middle of the night brought back some vivid memories. In one hour, I had four bathroom accidents. I was too ill to do anything about it. That sound of the washer reminded me of the times we used the washer in the middle of the night when we cared for our mothers. And here, I was now the cause of it with Red doing the cleaning and washing. I kept thinking of a poem: The sound of the washer at 3 a.m..

STay tuned to the announcement of my next poetry book that is being released next week.

 

 

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I spoke at Isabella Geriatric Center in New York City this weekend. I called the presentation “Gratitude. Trust. Dignity.” After my session, the residents surrounded me, asking me to return so every staff member, social workers and families could hear me. They asked, “Can you help us start book clubs and writing groups?”

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They welcomed the homework I gave—to begin a daily Journal of Joy.

Coming next: a heart-warming observation in the elevator and more valuable lessons learned from the elders and the young.

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